Wednesday, April 1, 2015

The Value of an Education and our Daughters







I have a son, not a daughter. But in regards to education, it wouldn't matter. Male or Female, we in America are afforded the same educational rights and opportunities regardless of gender. But that, as I have been discovering, does not extend into the home. Why? Why limit our daughters to being mothers, wives, caretakers? Why tell them, at tender ages such as 10 or 12, that they should not pursue their dreams because they may wish to be stay at home mothers? Do we do this to our sons? Do we tell them they are foolish for thinking about college because they may marry at a young age and need to provide for a family? NO! I'm appalled, saddened, and sickened by what I have been seeing from both friend and stranger!

 I recently read of a mom whose daughter said she wanted to be a veterinarian or perhaps an vet. assistant. The daughter was only 12. 12, and her mother was discouraging her from a dream of a college education of any sort because she may decide to be a stay at home mother, and not use her degree....then of course it would be a waste of time and money.  Friends, let me tell you something right now. An education of any sort, whether it is used or not, is NEVER a waste of money or time. NEVER! I, myself, am a college degree holder AND a stay-at-home homeschooling mother BY MY OWN CHOICE! I have a degree in sociology, and minors in criminal justice, history, French, and meteorology. And at no point in time have I ever felt that my college days were a waste of time or money.  No one told me I HAD to stay home. No one told me that was my only role in life, or my "God led" role. I think all too often we impose our own desires into the picture while claiming it is  God's will. Would God allow your daughter to have a desire for an education if it not her purpose?




I have learned there are programs that are gendered, and mainly used by some homeschoolers. The male gendered programs steer young boys to occupations, higher education, etc. to prepare them to be the main breadwinners of a family. The female version of these programs are designed to train little girls (as young as pre-school age!) to be merry little homemakers and mothers. It is assumed that boys will grow into young men who will obtain careers-either with or without the need for a college degree, while the girls will marry at young ages and have her husband support her. WHY? Why do we deny our girls the right to an equal education, whether they choose to use it or not? This, to me, is so wrong!

There are far too many people in this world, mostly female, who are denied the ability to obtain an education. If your daughter wants to go to college, embrace that! Cherish that! Do your best to foster that desire! LET HER GET AN EDUCATION THAT SO MANY ARE DENIED!!!!!!


2 comments:

  1. Missica, if anyone had told me at 12 I shouldn't go to college because I might want to be a stay-at-home/homeschooling parent, I would have laughed in their face! It never would have happened anyway. I was encouraged to go to college (I ended up being the first to go and graduate), and at that age, I was going to be the first female president. Or a lawyer. Or a writer. Or a school teacher. Dreams change, but we should never, NEVER discourage our children from pursing them.

    I read the statement about the 12 year old too, and it saddened me. I have an associate's degree and a bachelor's degree, and even though I don't "use" them now as a stay-at-home, homeschooling parent, I still value them. In fact, I was working when I started my bachelor's, and even though I left the workforce, I finished my degree. I started it, why NOT finish it? I may never formally use my education again, but it wasn't wasted!!

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  2. Thank you! I was so saddened, and so....ANGRY at that post! I can't even begin to put into words how I felt about it! There are women dying in the world trying to fight for a right to an education that so many take for granted. I was the first in my family to go and graduate. I have a Bachelor's in Sociology, minors in Criminal Justice, History, French, and Meteorology. Yeah, I'm not predicting the weather for the NWS, and I'm ot a lawyer. But that in no way devalues the education (both academic and tacit knowledge gained) that I received during my 5 years in college. I am a better person as a whole for having attended college. I'm able to make better choices, educate my child, converse with others, etc. thanks to that education. We should NEVER try to dissuade our children and their educational aspirations.

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